By: Emily Johnson
Updated: October 5, 2023
Originally Published: February 11, 2016
Dear Partner,
As we approach our anniversary on February 17, I reflect on our journey together—14 years of love and commitment, celebrated on the day of red roses and heartfelt vows. To some, that may seem insignificant, but for me, it represents everything.
Marriage is a challenging endeavor, as we’ve both seen many relationships falter over time. We have watched some couples break under the weight of life’s challenges, while others have drifted apart. It requires strength and determination to maintain a bond in this unforgiving world. There are times when we both feel exhausted, and at times, one of us might falter, while the other reaches out to hold on tightly. Our dance through life has been filled with ups and downs, but I am so grateful that we continue to reach for each other.
As we commemorate 14 years of our unique rhythm, I want you to know that through every twist and turn, your unwavering love has been a constant source of strength for me. The way you express that I am beautiful has resonated deeply within me.
While it may seem like a simple statement, your affirmation carries profound meaning. I believe your words, not just when I am at my best, but especially during my lowest moments.
I recall the times when I felt most vulnerable, standing in the shower, grappling with pain and uncertainty. After a series of surgeries that left me feeling incomplete, I struggled to see beauty in myself. Yet, you were there, guiding me, supporting me, and reminding me of my worth with every gentle touch and soothing word. You would wash away my fears and insecurities, whispering, “You are so beautiful,” over and over again. Your love transformed those moments of despair into affirmations of strength and resilience.
Thank you for helping me feel beautiful, even when I struggled to see it myself. Your words hold unimaginable power, bringing me comfort and reassurance when I needed it most.
When my sister was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer and urged me to get tested, I learned that I had the BRCA1 mutation. Faced with this reality, I made the difficult decision to undergo three surgeries: a double mastectomy, complete breast reconstruction, and a full hysterectomy—all performed simultaneously. It was a challenging journey, but I knew it was necessary for my health and the well-being of my family. My sister’s bravery in facing her own battles inspired me, and I am grateful for her gift of knowledge.
Even as I navigate life without my breasts and uterus, it is you who continually reminds me of my femininity and beauty. You reinforce the notion that I am still a woman, regardless of my physical changes. Your support has been invaluable.
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In conclusion, the love and encouragement we share have been the bedrock of my self-worth. As we continue our journey together, I cherish the beauty we create in each other’s lives.