As we prepare for the arrival of our second child, it’s natural for me to reflect on how this change will affect you. Welcoming a new sibling is a significant transition, and while you won’t be responsible for changing diapers or late-night feedings, you will have to share your space, toys, and, most importantly, our love. This may be quite an adjustment for you, so I want to take this moment to reassure you during this calm before the new baby arrives.
Dear Little One,
First and foremost, your mother and I are overjoyed by your enthusiasm about the new addition to our family. It may be a bit unusual for you to call him “our baby,” but we’ll leave the deeper implications of that for your future therapist to explore. We can’t wait for you to bond with your little brother as you navigate the journey of growing up together—whether as friends, housemates, or even rivals.
We are eager to see how having a sibling will shape you. Just as your mom and I experienced with our brothers and sisters, you too will learn and grow from this new dynamic.
I want to assure you that while some things will change, the most important aspect—our love for you—will remain constant. You are our beloved child, and that will never alter. Yes, come January, our family will look different; you will have a baby brother. Here are a few thoughts I’d like you to keep in mind.
There’s No Need to Feel Anxious
Though you’ve never lived with a baby before, you can handle it. We believe in your ability to adapt, and we’ll be counting on your support.
There’s No Reason to Feel Jealous
I can’t predict how my heart will expand with two children, but I am certain it will. Our capacity to love is infinite, and though it may seem like our attention will be divided, you will always hold a special place in our hearts. Remember, as the firstborn, you have a unique position in this family.
There’s No Cause for Fear
Change is a part of life, and it often brings wonderful opportunities. You may no longer be the youngest, but you will always be our little guy. We are looking forward to seeing you embrace your new role as a big brother. You will experience love in a new way—caring for someone who depends on you, as we have cared for you.
Your heart will grow in ways you can’t yet imagine.
Regardless of the challenges ahead—whether it’s the noise of a new baby, the fatigue your mother and I may feel, the toys and clothes you may pass down, or the times when your brother gets to watch a show instead of you—our love for you will remain unwavering. The arrival of another child will not diminish your significance in our lives.
We understand this transition may be difficult, especially at first, but you will be just fine. Trust me; we all will be okay. There’s no need for you to worry (that’s my job).
With all my love,
Daddy