Last night, a close acquaintance reached out, expressing her overwhelming frustration: “I feel like I despise everything and everyone.” Though our conversations are infrequent, we tend to connect during difficult moments. She has a 5-year-old and a 9-month-old.
Her messages continued, “Am I a terrible parent for wanting to give my kids away? The older one never stops whining, and the youngest is always crying. I might need to check myself into a facility.”
I replied humorously, “Absolutely. You’re a bad parent, and you’re on the bad-parent bus with me as the driver. Honestly, would you prefer to be on a good-parenting bus with someone who can’t admit anything negative about their children?”
At home, her husband was watching TV with their older child while the baby cried in the crib. I suggested, “Scream into a pillow. Lie outside on the sidewalk and gaze at the sky. Go on, you have every right. Have a drink; you’ve earned it.”
Texting felt insufficient, so I called her to provide a listening ear. “Let it all out,” I encouraged.
Her frustrations poured out: “I’m so tired of this. I know we’ll get through this phase, and things will improve when the baby turns one, but I had forgotten how hard it can be. The whining from my oldest is relentless, and I feel like I’m failing both of them…”
As she spoke, I reflected on my own experiences, recalling the challenging times I had faced. We chuckled, and I shared my coping strategies: blogging, a bit of self-deprecation, and, I must admit, the occasional cigarette—just a couple of puffs to feel rebellious after the kids were asleep (though it usually left me feeling queasy).
In that moment, I found it surprising to be the one listening instead of venting, even though I sometimes wake up counting down the minutes until bedtime. A cliché ran through my mind: “It was so difficult, but I can’t even remember why. Everything is a blur.”
Then, a specific memory surfaced—endless tearless crying, which consumed 18 months of my life.
She reassured me, “I know it will get easier soon.” I thought to myself, “If by ‘soon’ you mean 18 months, then yes, improvements are on the horizon.”
She was nearing the stage that my youngest had just emerged from, the phase full of incessant whining.
While I recognize the challenges are not entirely behind me, the irrationality of the toddler years has passed. Speaking with my friend made me realize that perhaps I am on the other side of that struggle.
Things do become slightly more manageable—just as everyone told me a year ago. I echoed this sentiment to her: “It’s funny; of all our friends, you’re the closest ‘behind’ me on this journey, so I totally relate. Feel free to vent to me anytime. It’s still fresh in my mind.”
“I appreciate that. I will. I know it will get better soon.”
“No, it won’t,” I joked.
Parenting is more workable now. However, it is still akin to herding cats, repeating myself endlessly, and negotiating with a stubborn, adorable 2½-year-old.
There are still moments of exasperation when “no” leads to dramatic reactions from my 4-year-old and sleepless nights over a pacifier (toddler tears, not mine).
But I can confirm it is easier now.
I had longed for this day, but the reality hit me when I became the listener instead of the one venting. It struck me when I could empathize with another parent lamenting their difficult baby, responding, “I understand. I’ve been there. I don’t know how I got through it, but you will too.”
The perspective from this side is different, and while the future still appears overwhelming, I think I’ll treat myself to a drink—I’ve certainly earned it.
Resources for Further Support
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Conclusion
In summary, parenting can be challenging, but it does become more manageable over time. Connecting with others who share similar experiences can provide relief and encouragement. Remember, while the journey is tough, you are not alone, and you will get through it.
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