Dear Emma,
I still remember the day you paraded around in your starry, black-and-white pants, layered with three colorful dresses. You confidently declared that you looked “amazing.” When I asked, “If you could be any dinosaur, what would you be?” you enthusiastically replied, “A sparkly pink Pteranodon that loves doing art projects and cooking with mommy, and adores its baby sister.” In that moment, you embodied a joyful self-acceptance I wish you could carry with you into adulthood.
As you grow from a playful child into a mature woman, I hope you retain that genuine sense of happiness and self-worth. Unfortunately, the world may try to strip that away during challenging moments like junior high, first job evaluations, or heartbreaks. Here are some pointers for the incredible 30-year-old you, inspired by the unfiltered wisdom of your 3-year-old self.
- Claim Your Space. When you enter a room, embrace your surroundings. Just like you used to grab your favorite toy, don’t shy away from taking what’s rightfully yours, whether it’s the armrest on a plane or a chance to speak up in a meeting.
- Value Yourself. Remember the Thanksgiving tree where you included being thankful for “myself”? That’s right! You should always appreciate your own worth.
- Comfort is Key. Seek comfort in your lifestyle. Whether it’s cozy socks or the best pillow, prioritize your well-being. Embrace ease, just like you do when you skip down the hall.
- Choose Your Nourishment Wisely. Eat only what fuels you or brings you joy. If something doesn’t taste good, let it go! Enjoy pizza wholeheartedly, but balance it with healthy options too.
- Be Kind, but Realistic. While kindness is invaluable, recognize that sometimes those who are unkind may seem to “win.” Don’t let that deter your compassion; true fulfillment comes from kindness, not just strategic choices.
- Appreciate Your Body. Celebrate your body’s capabilities rather than focusing on imperfections. Your hands can create, your lungs breathe, and your body heals—see that beauty.
- Cherish True Friends. You might encounter those who don’t appreciate you, but remember the friends who genuinely support you. They will be the ones by your side in years to come.
- Own Your Confidence. Whether singing a silly song or creating an art project, your confidence is contagious. Hold onto that self-assurance even when faced with doubt.
- Embrace Messiness. Dive into experiences wholeheartedly. Make a mess and enjoy it—just like you do now.
- Focus on Positivity. Acknowledge constructive criticism but don’t fixate on the negative. Reflect on the good things said about you over the year.
- Love Your Sister. Your sister looks up to you. Nurture that bond; it’s one that will last a lifetime.
- Stay Playfully Irreverent. Keep that unique viewpoint. If you think of vegetables when asked to create a story, run with that creativity!
- Avoid the Stress Contest. Don’t compare burdens. Choose happiness, and if you can’t find it, let’s talk about it together.
- Champion Empathy. Your ability to understand others’ feelings is precious. Cultivate that empathy; it will serve you well.
- Forgive and Move On. Like your song suggests, clean up your mistakes and keep going. Life is too short to dwell.
- Seek Support. If someone wrongs you, don’t wait for them to apologize. Instead, focus on those who lift you up.
- Know You Are Loved. You deserve love as fully as I love you. Seek relationships that reflect that.
- Choose Your Partner Wisely. Look for someone who makes you feel good rather than just someone who seems interesting.
- Be the Protagonist. Take charge of your narrative; don’t settle for being anyone else’s side character.
- Insist on Strong Female Leads. Just as you demand female characters in your stories, demand the same in your life. You are as worthy as any man.
- Talk to Yourself Kindly. If you doubt your abilities, remind yourself as you would a young child. You’re capable and deserving of success.
- Find Joy in All Moments. Whether it’s a small victory or a mundane task, find ways to enjoy every experience.
- Advocate for Yourself. Be bold in asking for what you want. Just like your dream of riding a rainbow unicorn—go for it.
As you navigate adulthood, remember these lessons from your vibrant inner child. They will serve you well on your journey toward fulfillment and happiness.
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In summary, maintain the wonder and confidence of your younger self as you grow. You are deserving of love and happiness, so embrace your journey fully.
Keyphrase: Advice to my adult daughter
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