There’s little that can throw doubt on your parenting abilities quite like being 3,000 miles away from home, dealing with jet lag, and managing the chaos of two energetic kids. This has been my reality over the past week as I navigate a trip to California to reconnect with friends and family. My two-year-old has taken nearly the entire week to adjust to the new time zone, resulting in numerous meltdowns during morning and evening routines. He constantly questions when we’ll return home (trust me, I’m wondering the same thing!). Meanwhile, my picky eight-year-old has subsisted solely on cereal and chips.
Each morning, as we make our way to the continental breakfast, the bickering begins. They argue over everything: “Stop touching me!” “That’s my chair!” “You said we could have chocolate!” My eight-year-old insists that milk in California tastes completely different from the milk back in New York, while my toddler claims the pancakes aren’t round enough.
And the noise—oh, the noise. Their high-pitched, incessant chatter fills the room as they climb on chairs, hide beneath tables, and create messy kingdoms from their food. Heads turn, and a woman across the way shoots us a disapproving look. One child has strawberry jam smeared across his face, while the other is tugging at his pants. It’s a scene that feels anything but civilized.
We attempt to shush them, and they try to comply, but the truth is, they’re just being, well, wild. When I was a newer mother, the judgmental gaze of that woman would have hit me hard. I would have scrutinized myself, questioning my capabilities as a mother.
My internal dialogue would have included thoughts like: Why are my children making such a scene? Look at that family next to us, calmly enjoying breakfast, their baby munching quietly on green mush. Why can’t my kids simply follow instructions? It seems as though they are oblivious to any parental authority.
Other parents have strategies in place—discipline books, reward systems, and sticker charts. Stickers! That’s the solution I need to try.
Even now, amidst the challenges of parenting in public, I can’t shake the feeling that my children and I are under a spotlight—not just in the hotel dining area but also when I’m spending time with family and friends, individuals whose opinions I truly value.
Feeling embarrassed about your children’s behavior in those moments is akin to being back in middle school. Your cheeks flush, your heart races, and a wave of frustration washes over you. It’s that instinct to want to retreat, to lock yourself away and cry, but you can’t escape. You’re there, responsible for your children, with no shortcuts or exits.
Yet, there is a silver lining I’ve learned to keep in mind over the years: You are not alone.
I understand why some parents might bristle at the notion of not being alone. In those moments of chaos, it certainly feels isolating. But deep down, every parent grapples with uncertainty daily, especially when outside their comfort zone, feeling the weight of judgment from the world around them.
So, to all the parents out there with their wild, unruly kids:
Your children are not the only ones who wail in public, even when you’ve done your best to prepare them for an outing. They’re not the only ones who disregard cleanliness and decorum. You’re not the only ones whose kids take “spirited” behavior to new heights—dancing on tables, belting out songs, or demanding candy at the crack of dawn.
And you are certainly not the only parent feeling lost or uncertain.
What the outside world witnesses is merely a snapshot of your life with your children, magnified during stressful times. More people need to recognize that, rather than judging parents based on brief encounters.
The reality is that your kids are just being kids, and it’s typical for them to struggle with new environments, to squabble with siblings, to make messes, and to test boundaries—these behaviors are signs of trust and love.
It’s important to remember that the most energetic, vivacious kids often possess the highest levels of creativity and intelligence. They’re the ones who surprise you with newfound skills, like swimming in just a few days, or crafting intricate dance routines at the crack of dawn.
You’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed. At the moment you think you’re failing, someone else is likely feeling just as lost. It might even be me.
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In summary, remember that the challenges you face are shared by many, and there is strength in knowing that you are part of a larger community of parents navigating the wild ride of raising children.
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