As I approach the milestone of forty, I am acutely aware of the changes my body is undergoing, even without glancing at the calendar. There are more grey strands catching the light, defying gravity in a way that seems almost rebellious. My laugh lines remain etched on my face, while I notice a subtle shift in my body that could resemble the waddle of a character from a past TV show. Yes, I am aging.
However, I firmly reject the label of being middle-aged. The concept of middle age is ambiguous at best. For some, like my mother, it arrived at 25; for my husband’s grandmother, it was at 51. Middle age can be defined numerically, but more often, it represents a psychological phase—a period of crisis and self-doubt. This is a narrative I refuse to accept. I feel as though I have only truly begun to live in recent years.
My memories of early childhood are hazy at best. I recall pouring sand into a tree trunk because a friend convinced me it would help it grow (she was mistaken); I remember the shock of discovering what happens when you induce a gag reflex; and there was the time I was lured back home with the promise of a peanut butter cup. Yet, these fragmented memories feel like whispers from a distant past.
Having moved beyond the awkwardness of my tweens, I sometimes reflect on those early teenage years. It’s not that I long to relive that phase—after all, middle school was fraught with its own challenges. Instead, I wish I could apply the wisdom I’ve gained over the years. I would excel in English class and advocate for those who were mistreated, regardless of the impact on my social standing. I would pursue my interests without concern for others’ opinions. And yes, I would have avoided those high-topped shoes and embraced personal hygiene a bit sooner.
My twenties were characterized by learning—immersing myself in college and law school, then navigating the complexities of adulthood. I learned to manage finances, to say goodbye to relationships that no longer served me, and ultimately, to understand who I truly am.
Entering my early thirties, life revolved around the joys and challenges of motherhood. Sleepless nights and endless questions about parenting dominated my thoughts. I was consumed with self-doubt, constantly questioning whether I was doing it right.
Now, as I settle into my late thirties, I feel a newfound sense of confidence. I’ve chosen my friends and my partner wisely, and I excel in my career. I am raising three remarkable children and carving out time for my own well-being—whether through running, knitting, or writing. My body tells the story of my journey; it bears the marks of motherhood and hard-earned wisdom. My eyesight is not what it once was, my face has taken on a character of its own, and I’ve accepted the physical changes that come from nurturing life.
I understand that my learning journey is far from over. I anticipate the complexities of my children’s teenage years, knowing I will encounter new challenges. If I’m fortunate, my middle age is still on the horizon, as I have so much left to explore and accomplish. I embrace my life’s imperfections and the wisdom that comes with them. I may glance in the mirror and wish for youthful skin, or lament the grey hairs that seem to multiply. But ultimately, I am proud to be on the verge of forty, ready to fully engage with life.
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In summary, as I navigate the complexities of life, I embrace the journey of aging with confidence and a spirit of adventure.
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