As I prepare to watch my daughter, Emily, graduate from high school this June, I am reminded of the complexities of parenthood. It will be a bittersweet day, especially since it coincides with what would have been my late father’s 74th birthday. He would have taken immense joy in witnessing his granddaughter achieve this milestone. The absence of his presence serves as a stark reminder of life’s dualities: joy cannot exist without sorrow.
This emotional paradox becomes particularly poignant when it’s time for a child to leave for college. For many parents, the joy of seeing their child take flight is often tempered by the ache of watching them go. I experienced this two years ago with my son, Lucas, who is now 20. I can vividly recall the day of his graduation—the anticipation, the music, and the tears that flowed as I reflected on the fleeting nature of childhood.
The summer leading up to Emily’s departure will be filled with preparations. As a single parent, I’m acutely aware of the financial burdens involved, including the costs of necessary items like special bedding and a warm winter coat for her new life in a colder city. While we can manage to save on meals, the reality is that some expenses are unavoidable.
However, the true challenge of sending a daughter to college extends beyond finances. My own experiences in college—ranging from attempted assault to mugging—serve as a harsh reminder of the dangers young women may face. I have a long list of unfortunate incidents that I endured, and while I hope that Emily will never encounter such trauma, the reality is that the world can be a perilous place.
It is difficult to convey the depth of my concern. There is no protective equivalent for my daughter against the harsh realities of human behavior. All I can do, while we shop for essentials, is offer her guidance about the potential dangers she may encounter. Whether discussing safety measures at ATM machines or the importance of being aware of her surroundings, these conversations feel weighty and necessary.
This gender disparity in freedom is striking. Lucas can travel alone without a second thought, while Emily must navigate her surroundings with caution. She is beginning to accept these inequities, even as they fuel her frustration. For each step toward independence, there is a looming threat, a reminder of the vulnerabilities she faces.
As I prepare to say goodbye to Emily on campus, I hope that her college experience is defined by learning and personal growth, rather than hardship. Yet, I know that my heart will carry not only the sadness of parting but also an underlying dread about her safety in a world that is sometimes unforgiving.
In conclusion, sending a daughter to college presents unique challenges that are often overlooked. While we celebrate their achievements, we must also remain vigilant about the complexities they will face.
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