For as long as I can remember, I viewed my mother as a quirky individual—slightly disorganized, perpetually late, and often a source of minor annoyances. She was the type to have a collection of thank-you notes that never saw the post office and craft projects that were eternally incomplete. The phrase “a day late and a dollar short” could have easily been coined for her. I experienced countless late pick-ups and drop-offs for activities, and occasionally, I was left stranded. Her timing seemed to operate on a constant ten-minute delay, dependent on favorable traffic conditions, and I suspect that the road paved with good intentions led straight to her front door.
This past year, she was over the moon when the package she sent for St. Patrick’s Day actually arrived on March 17. It was filled with Valentine’s Day cards, but why bother with specifics? A month late is nothing compared to the delays I faced during my childhood. At the age of two, she began sewing me a cloth Easter basket. True to form, she fell behind, and the basket never made it in time for a single egg hunt during my formative years. Instead, I would occasionally find remnants of Strawberry Shortcake fabric stuck in her sewing basket when I was searching for a button. I’d roll my eyes and offer to toss the scraps, but she would insist on keeping them, convinced she’d finish the basket one day.
Her intentions were always good, but she seemed overwhelmed, juggling too many tasks that never resulted in anything particularly appetizing. The woman could ruin a roast from a distance, and my lunch box was the least desirable in my school. While other kids traded snacks, mine elicited pity from classmates. I was probably the only college student who eagerly awaited fall break for a decent meal.
More recently, my mother has taken to calling me with local weather updates, as if I might not look out the window, or to share intriguing herbal supplement discoveries from Dr. Oz. While these calls are preferable to unsolicited parenting advice that contradicts my own methods, they still leave me puzzled.
For a long time, I thought my mother was just slow or scatterbrained. I assumed it was a personal flaw, convinced that every other mother was punctual with pick-ups, serving gourmet meals, and dedicating evenings to scrapbooking summer vacations.
Then I became a mother myself.
I vividly recall those sleepless nights, cradling my newborn while my eyes struggled to stay open. It struck me with overwhelming force—my mother had done this for me. Someone had responded to my cries, fed me, and rocked me through the night, all while managing the demands of her other children. And I had once called her lazy for napping during the day.
The truth is, the challenges of motherhood are beyond comprehension until you experience them firsthand. You find yourself alone with an infant, desperately seeking an instruction manual, and you realize your mother, who seemed to have all the answers, was simply navigating motherhood without a clear guide. With every triumph and setback, I begin to understand her better.
Motherhood is a complex interplay of emotions and responsibilities that a child often misinterprets. How could she forget to wash my soccer uniform yet remember my birthday every year? How could she drive to school to deliver my forgotten lunch after I had complained about her cooking? How could she tearfully drop me off for kindergarten yet support my dreams to move across the country after college?
What I now perceive as disorganization was actually her being incredibly busy—busy teaching me to walk, helping me talk, reading to me, and most importantly, loving me. She didn’t document my milestones because she was too engaged in living them with me. She didn’t prepare gourmet dinners because all children crave are chicken nuggets and macaroni and cheese, and by the time dinner rolled around, parents are often exhausted. She was late because my younger sibling had a meltdown or because the baby had a diaper mishap. She wasn’t the class mom because she was juggling younger children at home while working part-time to afford family vacations.
Today, she calls about the weather because she misses the joyful chaos of our lives together, the tea parties, and T-ball games. The absence of little voices seeking her attention must be profoundly lonely. She sacrificed so much to ensure her children felt loved and secure, and now, as adults, we sometimes let her calls go unanswered.
I’ve come to realize that with all the responsibilities mothers juggle, it’s understandable that hand-sewing an Easter basket might not be a priority. Yet, one Easter, I received a package containing that very basket at the age of 22. I can picture her late at night, following a decades-old pattern, her hands cramping as she stuffed it and rushed to the post office to avoid missing another holiday. It was a sweet gesture that I didn’t fully appreciate until my own children started requiring less from me.
Now, I understand. That basket symbolizes her unwavering love and commitment, a reminder that she will never forget me. Each year, as I unpack it, I am reminded of the little girl I will always be to her—a testament to a mother’s devotion and the most precious gift I have ever received.
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In summary, my understanding of motherhood has evolved tremendously since becoming a parent. I now appreciate the sacrifices and challenges my mother faced, recognizing that her love was always present, even if her timing was not.
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