Updated: Dec. 18, 2015
Originally Published: May 25, 2015
Date nights with my partner are a rare occurrence, which leads me to place immense pressure on these evenings. The logistics involved in leaving the house for a few hours can feel overwhelming. My children are still at ages when I can’t simply take a shower without worrying about discovering crayon drawings on the wall or dirt scattered from a plant. Even with a sitter lined up, I need to ensure the kids have dinner and that bedtime routines go smoothly—after all, I want to avoid getting that dreaded phone call while I’m out.
As I write this, it seems like a straightforward task, and most days it is. However, the day of a planned date often presents its own unique challenges. Some days, escaping the house alone is a monumental task. There are times when it feels easier to enjoy each other’s company alongside our children, lounging on the couch with snacks and a show, which we’ve often dubbed as our “date night.” While we do enjoy those moments, they can become mundane. We crave meaningful connection outside our home, free from the constant interruptions of mini requests for water, snacks, and bedtime stories.
A couple of months back, we finally managed to go out for a date night. I was genuinely excited and completed all the necessary preparations. My partner, Ryan, also had his own arrangements to make, but on this particular evening, he brought along some stress from work. I arrived eager for an enjoyable experience, but the date itself fell flat. If I were to rate it, I’d give it a 3 out of 10—there was no spark. We exchanged kind but surface-level conversation while I savored my tacos, completely disconnected from each other. It felt like such a waste of time considering the effort it took to get to that moment. I longed for deeper dialogue rather than just excellent guacamole.
Typically, Ryan and I connect well. Our relationship is filled with love and laughter; he listens to my daily gripes, and we navigate life together smoothly. I married a nurturing individual who appreciates my quirks. Yet, there are moments when our connection feels mundane, and it’s easy to slip into boredom, especially when fatigue sets in.
I never expected to find myself in a situation where we struggled for conversation. I had heard of couples who shared the same fate, but we had not been one of them—until now. Introducing children into the mix can expose vulnerabilities in communication, especially when sleep is scarce. This particular evening highlighted one of our weaknesses: our struggle to communicate effectively when we haven’t practiced it regularly. I’ve observed other couples in similar situations, their conversations trailing off into silence. It’s a challenge to remember how to engage openly when opportunities are few and far between. Nonetheless, we continue to make the effort and share a laugh when things don’t go as planned because we recognize that one off night is insignificant in the grand scheme of our long-term partnership.
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In summary, date nights are essential for maintaining connection, even when they don’t always go as planned. They provide a chance to reconnect and navigate the complexities of married life with a bit of humor and patience.
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