Updated: August 20, 2015
Originally Published: April 27, 2015
It was a unique evening—my 11-year-old daughter and I found ourselves seated in the lunchroom of her elementary school, both in our pajamas. The aroma of freshly delivered pizza filled the air, and we were surrounded by approximately 30 enthusiastic fifth-grade girls and their equally nervous parents. This event, aptly named “Girls Night Out,” aimed to provide insights into the maturation process and prepare the students for the changes they would soon experience in their bodies.
As a parent, you may recognize this gathering as “the talk,” that pivotal moment when a father must confront the reality that his little girl is on the verge of adolescence. You might wonder why I, as a dad, would attend an event predominantly featuring girls and their mothers. The answer is simple: my daughter asked me to join her. If she trusts me enough to invite me to such an awkward situation, I want to foster that trust. It is this very trust that will encourage open communication between us as she grows.
As mothers and daughters filled the remaining seats, I could feel the curious glances directed my way. Under different circumstances, I might have felt out of place, but not that night; I was there for my daughter. After a somewhat uncomfortable icebreaker, where we exchanged questions about the female menstrual cycle, we watched an informational video from the 1980s. The content was outdated, featuring awkward discussions about changes such as breast development, acne, body hair, hips, and the workings of the female reproductive system. Nervous giggles from the preteens punctuated the silence, amplifying the tension in the room.
Following the video, an open question-and-answer session allowed the girls to voice their inquiries. Some were brave enough to ask aloud, while others submitted their questions anonymously. The topics varied, filled with genuine curiosity about their impending changes, and despite the giggles, they approached the discussion with commendable bravery.
The reactions of the adults, however, told a different story. Many were visibly uncomfortable, whispering amongst themselves, and some seemed to wish they were anywhere else but there, discussing puberty and menstruation. It was at this moment that I felt compelled to speak for my daughter’s benefit.
I made it clear that if I, as a parent, treat these subjects as taboo, how could I expect my daughter to feel at ease discussing them with me? I want her to understand that these experiences are normal and natural. So, I spoke openly about menstruation—estimating how much blood is lost during a period and explaining that cycles typically last three to seven days. I confidently shared that a typical menstrual cycle spans roughly 28 days and discussed why tracking these cycles is important.
I reassured my daughter that it’s perfectly normal to feel irritable before her period starts and that many girls experience this. I didn’t shy away from saying that she could get her period any day now or it could be years away, but regardless of when it happens, it’s completely normal. My wife and I would always be there to answer any questions she may have, without judgment.
Finally, I assured her that I would be supportive whenever she needed supplies like tampons or pads. I also emphasized that any boy worthy of her attention will respect her for being a capable young woman, and anyone who is embarrassed about her natural biology isn’t worth her time.
It’s essential for fathers to take a more proactive role in educating their daughters to embrace all aspects of themselves. We must stop viewing menstruation and puberty as taboo topics. Instead, we should empower our daughters to feel proud of who they are, helping them understand that they are invaluable parts of our lives.
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In conclusion, it’s time to embrace open discussions about menstruation, fostering an environment where our daughters feel empowered and informed.
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