Today, I found myself reflecting on my role as a mother, and it’s safe to say I felt like I fell short of the ideal mom I aspire to be.
I started the day by prioritizing my own needs, sipping coffee before addressing my baby’s diaper change. I displayed frustration by raising my voice at my toddler who refused to eat the meal I prepared. I enforced rules more often than I offered permission, saying “no” significantly more than “yes.” Throughout the day, I even caught myself speaking through gritted teeth on occasions I’d rather not recall.
Those who advise us to “enjoy every moment” may have overlooked the complexities of parenting. It’s not always filled with joy; in fact, the most colorful moment of my day was when my baby created a messy scene with crayon bits—an incident I wish I could forget. Despite my intentions, I frequently feel inadequate in my role.
However, I recognize that dwelling on my shortcomings can lead to unnecessary guilt. Instead, I should acknowledge my successes. After all, there were moments today that showcased my strengths as a parent.
I engaged in imaginative play, constructing a pillow fort that sparked joy. My patience was evident as I waited for my toddler to wrestle with her car seat buckle, ultimately lending a hand when needed. I put my phone aside to snuggle with my children on the couch, and I comforted them with kisses and hugs during their little mishaps.
As parents, we inherently desire the best for our children—not just mediocrity but excellence. This high expectation often leads us to set ourselves up for failure with unrealistic goals that can be burdening. It’s crucial to recognize our achievements alongside our shortcomings.
Human nature seems to lean towards the negative; we often hear about “mommy guilt,” but perhaps it’s time to celebrate “mommy pride.” We should take pride in the remarkable feats of motherhood, from nurturing life to sleepless nights spent feeding our little ones, and tackling the messes that come with raising children. Our love as mothers is profound—selfless, nurturing, and unconditional.
When we assess our parenting journey, we may find that the positive experiences outweigh the negatives. Parenting is a daily dance of highs and lows, filled with imperfect moments that do not define our capabilities. It’s about being present, holding it together amidst chaos, and finding balance as we navigate this path.
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In summary, while my day was filled with challenges, it was also a testament to the love and dedication I pour into my family. Each day brings new lessons in the art of parenting, and I’m learning to embrace both the successes and the imperfections.