“You were right, Mom.” How many times have kids, regardless of their age—from toddlers to adults—said those exact words? Mothers possess a wealth of knowledge, making them the perfect source for guidance when faced with challenging questions. Enter Clara Lewis, a mother of five ranging in ages from 5 to 17, an author, and the mind behind the Happiest Home blog. Her latest book, The Happiest Mom: 10 Secrets to Enjoying Motherhood, offers insights for mothers seeking fulfillment in all aspects of their lives. Clara is our go-to mom, the Everymom…The Mom.
Dear Clara,
I’ve raised my three sons as a single parent for most of their lives. Their father has been inconsistent, providing minimal child support despite having a good job. My two older sons are now young adults and have achieved success, largely thanks to my support. However, my youngest, “Liam,” has always been my “baby.” Recently, at 16, he decided to move in with his father.
It’s been nine months, and Liam’s academic performance has plummeted from As and Bs to Ds and Fs. No amount of counseling or my patience has persuaded him to come home. According to Liam’s girlfriend, his father and his new live-in partner (who doesn’t know us) are telling him we are “unfit” parents. He’s so conflicted now that he refuses to talk on the phone or visit.
With Liam now 17, the court system cannot enforce a return. His brothers still reach out but don’t want to interfere. Can you help me? I feel lost and heartbroken, and I miss him dearly!
Signed, Heartbroken Mom