The term “unsubstantiated” seems rather ironic in this context. Assertions that children are currently more at risk than they were two decades ago? Unsubstantiated. Claims that children are in grave danger without constant adult supervision? Unsubstantiated. The belief that a potential threat—be it a predator, violent criminal, or kidnapper—will definitely harm any child left alone for even a brief moment? Unsubstantiated.
What is not unsubstantiated, however, is the considerate and engaged parenting exhibited by Rebecca and Mark Thompson, the Maryland couple who allowed their 10-year-old son and 6-year-old daughter to walk home from a local park without adult accompaniment, much to the dismay of overly cautious officials and online critics alike.
This assertion may be startling, but the crux of this matter is that when state law permits parental discretion (Maryland law only addresses children left unattended at home or in cars, not those outdoors), it is, indeed, the parents’ prerogative. It is not the prerogative of a passerby. It is not the prerogative of an anonymous commentator online. Who knows these children best? THEIR PARENTS. Who understands the family dynamics most thoroughly? THE FAMILY. The law clearly states: MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. If you encounter a child you don’t know, the only decision you should be making is whether to offer assistance if she requests it. If she appears safe and composed, perhaps consider not involving law enforcement. Trust your instincts; that is the discretion you can exercise.
Now, I will take a moment for a deep breath. It’s important to acknowledge that exceptions exist. Some family situations are indeed unacceptable for the children involved. There are parents who neglect their responsibilities. Instances of abuse and genuine neglect must be addressed. Law enforcement and Child Protective Services face the challenging task of safeguarding children without unnecessarily alarming families. One might assume the distinction between what constitutes harm and what does not is clear. However, many cases of “well-meaning” individuals triggering police and CPS investigations against ordinary families reveal that this distinction is increasingly ambiguous.
In this specific case, investigations were conducted. The children were spoken to. The parents were questioned. It is evident that the children were not simply abandoned but were being taught independence, encouraged to explore, and given the opportunity to practice those lessons. This was communicated to law enforcement and Child Protective Services. The parents exercised their lawful discretion regarding their children’s maturity, which was subsequently challenged.
To those bureaucrats and internet critics scrutinizing families for perceived “neglect,” let me clarify: if you disagree with a family’s choices, that is acceptable. However, it is unjust to condemn them for differing parenting philosophies. If they are breaking the law, endangering their children, or genuinely neglecting them, then, by all means, take action.
Yet, to criticize a loving and thoughtful family for “unsubstantiated” neglect is both cowardly and unjust. If Child Protective Services believes these children were neglected, they should state it plainly. If not, they should leave this family alone. Tainting their record while hiding behind vague bureaucratic jargon is cruel. If Maryland law considers allowing children to walk unaccompanied as neglect, then the law requires revision. Leaving families in a state of uncertainty due to ambiguous interpretations of a law meant for their protection is, in the words of my 12-year-old (who was also recently questioned by CPS for baseless reasons), “not cool.”
Many states’ laws regarding unattended children are designed to favor parents. They were established to prevent government interference in private family matters. However, it seems that these laws now favor strangers first, then law enforcement, and subsequently Child Protective Services.
In the case of the Thompsons, the only truly unsubstantiated aspect is the efficacy of Maryland’s Unattended Children’s Law. This is disheartening, as there are indeed children who require protection, but not necessarily from parenting choices that differ from societal expectations.
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Summary:
The ruling regarding the “unsubstantiated child neglect” against the Thompson family highlights the misunderstandings surrounding parental discretion and the murky definitions of neglect in today’s society. While there are undeniable cases of genuine neglect that require attention, the case illustrates the need for a clearer understanding of laws related to unattended children and the necessity of respecting diverse parenting styles.
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