Navigating life with a 12-year-old daughter can feel like managing a mini version of the Incredible Hulk. One moment, my sweet girl serenades her way through a morning shower, and the next, she transforms into a dramatic whirlwind, complete with eye rolls and emotional outbursts—all before breakfast is finished. As she oscillates between stages of early adolescence, I find myself shifting roles, from the “Let’s Celebrate the Positives” parent to the “No Nonsense” parent, and then to the “I Totally Understand” parent. The emotional rollercoaster can be draining. Yet, amidst the chaos, we often find common ground. She’s on the verge of adulthood, while I’m navigating the complexities of midlife, both of us still trying to figure out what “grown up” truly means. This shared journey leads us to moments of connection, whether through smiles, embraces, or shared eye rolls.
While some of our similarities prompt me to question whether I should embrace more “mature” behavior, bonding over nail polish, young adult literature, and the emotional ups and downs of friendships creates some of the most cherished memories between us. Here are ten ways I, as a mom in my 40s, mirror my 12-year-old daughter:
- Fashion Choices: We both sport skinny jeans, though I’m uncertain if they’re suitable for either of us. My jeans are trendy, while hers seem a tad too snug. Did she just imply mine are too tight?
- Skin Woes: We both experience significant acne flare-ups that leave us feeling less than fabulous. Hormonal changes affect us at opposite ends of the age spectrum.
- Nail Polish Exchange: We frequently share nail polish, relishing the music and conversation that accompany manicures. Our current favorite shade? Sugarplum, available at Forever 21 for just $2.99.
- Unexpected Hair Growth: We’re both noticing unwanted hair in unusual places. She can opt for waxing, while I’m considering electrolysis.
- Literary Preferences: We share a love for thrilling YA novels infused with romance. Who doesn’t enjoy a tale of an underdog girl rising to power while navigating love and saving the world? I’m excited for our movie night!
- Colorful Language: Both of us tend to use terms like “freakin’” and “crap” more than we should. My clever way of avoiding curse words now sounds like full-on swearing coming from a preteen.
- Attraction to Characters: We both describe our favorite characters from “Nashville” as “hot” (Deacon for me, Gunnar for her). When did she grasp that “hot” pertains to attractiveness, not temperature? Is the show suitable for her age?
- Exercise Dread: We both consider running to be a form of punishment rather than a fun activity. I distinctly remember when I started to dread PE classes, and I can see that same reluctance in her.
- Friendship Insecurities: Despite being an adult, I still grapple with feelings of inadequacy in friendships, just like she does. The difference is my experience allows me to guide her through these moments of social anxiety.
- Dream Support: We motivate one another to chase our aspirations. My daughter shines as a vocalist in her school’s rock band, and I proudly cheer her on. Recently, I had the chance to live out my dream of performing with a group of moms at a school fundraiser. While she may have felt a bit embarrassed, she was still my biggest supporter.
Parenting a tween can be intense, but the moments of connection we share make it all worthwhile—even if I occasionally have to check whether my jeans are a bit too tight.
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In summary, despite the generational gap, the parallels between a 40-something mom and her 12-year-old daughter create a unique bond filled with shared experiences, emotions, and dreams.
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