Before I entered the world of motherhood, I was a beacon of modesty. I would shyly stand at the gym, waiting for a private shower stall to open, while others confidently stripped down and rinsed off. If I desperately needed a shower, I would wear my bathing suit just to avoid public exposure.
Fast forward to today, and I find myself hastily discarding my bathing suit before the locker room door even closes, all because I only have a fleeting 45 seconds to wash up before my baby starts crying for food from his milk-less caregiver. Modesty? What’s that?
I never imagined I would be in a bathroom with three spectators encouraging my body to perform its natural functions. Sure, I knew this day would come eventually, but not before I hit my 90s. The reality of onlookers during childbirth was a stark reminder of how modesty can be stripped away. They were rooting for my bowel movements like it was a competitive sport; too bad my nerves got the best of me and led to a rather embarrassing outcome.
After that experience, any remnants of my modesty vanished entirely as I delivered a human being, with five individuals—including my iPhone—watching the entire process. To add to the spectacle, someone even removed my top to facilitate the first public feeding of my newborn.
No one prepared me for the way motherhood would obliterate my sense of modesty, especially as I navigated the challenges of breastfeeding. The moment my brother-in-law walked into the room while I was nursing, my instinct to cover up was quickly overshadowed by a sense of “who cares?” It was easier to let it all hang out for the sake of feeding this hungry little creature.
Since becoming a parent, I’ve experienced several liberating transformations:
- Goodbye Bras: In the initial weeks after giving birth, I ditched not only my bra but often my shirt as well. With sore breasts and the constant need to nurse, dealing with clothing became too much of an effort. Anyone looking through my window would have seen a woman, semi-topless, with a baby and a husband repeating, “I think the baby is hungry again.” Now, I wear a bra only for formal occasions—thankfully, I found a cute ruffle top dress for my first postpartum wedding that allowed me to skip it altogether.
- Flatulence Acceptance: Flatulence is a natural part of life, regardless of one’s social status. Holding it in leads to discomfort, and after having a baby, I learned to embrace the motto: “if you gotta go, let it flow.” I now have a newfound appreciation for the older generations who unabashedly let it rip at dinner; who wants to endure a belly full of gas?
- Messy Attire: Stains are now a regular part of my wardrobe. I’ve had everything from baby poop to mystery liquids on my clothes since becoming a mom. The old me would have changed outfits over a tiny coffee spill, but now it takes a significant amount of spit-up to prompt me to change.
- Accidental Leaks: The thought of accidentally wetting myself in public used to terrify me. Now, I’ve embraced the reality of wearing black yoga pants to conceal any unexpected leaks that may occur during laughter or physical activity. If anyone notices an odor, I can conveniently blame it on the baby.
- Wedge Adjustments: With my body having changed post-baby, my underwear often finds itself lodged in uncomfortable places. I have no hesitation when it comes to adjusting my wedgie, regardless of my surroundings. If someone finds that inappropriate, they can simply look away.
- The “Mom Bath”: When time for a proper shower is nonexistent, I resort to the “Mom Bath,” which involves slapping on extra deodorant and a few spritzes of perfume to mask the delightful scents of baby poop and unwashed hair.
Modesty can often create unnecessary barriers, distracting us from living our lives freely. Why worry about how we appear to others when what truly matters is our happiness and comfort?
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In summary, motherhood transforms our perspectives on modesty and self-image, encouraging us to prioritize our well-being and happiness over societal expectations.
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