In my experience, many individuals hold a misguided perception of how shared responsibilities are divided in various settings. Here are some somewhat uncomfortable truths to consider:
Truth 1: Others’ Tasks Seem Effortless.
How challenging can it really be to care for a newborn who sleeps most of the day? How tough is it to manage your billable hours, travel for a single night of business, prepare a four-year-old for school, return a few phone calls, or fill out some paperwork? While tasks like “performing brain surgery” are undeniably complex, the everyday responsibilities of others often appear much simpler—perhaps even less demanding than our own. This perception can lead us to underestimate the burden of tasks others undertake, making it easy to assume we don’t need to offer assistance or even express gratitude. After all, how difficult can it be to change a lightbulb?
Truth 2: Reliable Contributions Go Unnoticed.
When engaged in tasks that benefit others, it’s tempting to believe they recognize and appreciate your efforts, and should feel guilty for not contributing. However, the opposite often occurs: the more consistently you perform a task, the less likely it is for others to notice or feel compelled to assist. You might think, “I’ve been brewing the office coffee for months! Why hasn’t anyone else stepped up?” Unfortunately, the longer you take on a task, the more others may assume it is your responsibility—and they may not even consider it their job to help out. Being taken for granted can feel disheartening, yet it often signifies a form of praise.
Truth 3: We Tend to Overestimate Our Contributions.
Unconscious over-claiming occurs when we mistakenly believe our contributions exceed those of others. This is understandable, as we are far more aware of our own efforts than those of others. For instance, I value sending holiday cards, while my partner prioritizes maintaining the air conditioning. Research has shown that when partners estimate their share of household chores, the totals often exceed 100%. It’s easy to fall into the mindset of “I’m the only one who bothers to…” or “Why must I always be the one to…?” while overlooking contributions made by others.
Truth 4: Taking Turns is Simpler Than Sharing.
It has been noted that young children struggle with sharing but find taking turns much easier to grasp. This principle holds true for adults as well. I often find myself wanting to avoid shared tasks, hoping that if I ignore the overflowing dishwasher, my partner will handle it—and sometimes, they do. This brings us to some critical insights about shared responsibilities:
Truth 5: The Most Invested Person Usually Takes Charge.
If you care more about a task being completed, you are likely to end up doing it yourself. Don’t assume others will share your level of concern just because something is significant to you. In relationships, this can lead to misunderstandings. For instance, if I believe organizing the basement is vital and expect my partner to assist, I may be disappointed when they see it as unimportant.
Truth 6: If You Want Help, Don’t Do It Yourself.
This may seem obvious, but it’s worth considering. If you feel someone else should handle a task, refrain from doing it yourself. Allowing others the opportunity to step in increases the likelihood that they will, especially for tasks that aren’t obligatory. Of course, some responsibilities, like getting children ready for school, are unavoidable; however, many tasks are more flexible.
Truth 7: Criticism Discourages Future Help.
When others do step up, if you criticize their efforts, you may discourage them from helping in the future. If they feel they can’t meet your expectations, they’ll be justified in thinking, “I can’t do it right anyway,” or “Pat wants this done a specific way, so they should do it.” The more you insist on a particular standard, the more you may find yourself doing those tasks alone.
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