Recently, I’ve come across numerous amusing articles that compare the pursuit of new mom friends to dating. There’s the subtle hints of interest, the casual approach to conversations to avoid coming off as uptight, and even the effort to avoid seeming judgmental by listing the things you don’t judge—similar to how guys at a bar might insist they’re not the “creepy” type.
Now that mothers have caught on to the art of connecting with other moms, I’m here to provide some crucial advice on what NOT to do when you encounter that mom who seems just right for you. You know the one—the two of you bond over a mutual disdain for the crowds at Target, share a love for Angry Cat memes, and frequent the same café near the park where your children play. Your kids even get along splendidly!
You enthusiastically invite her to your weekly girls’ night out, and then—BAM!—she ghosts you.
She’s simply not that into you.
Much like in the dating world, you’re expected to take this in stride and move on to the next potential mom friend without holding a grudge. In the spirit of taking the high road, here are some strategies for handling a friend breakup gracefully:
- Avoid Social Media Stalking: While “stalking” might be too strong a term, refrain from checking your friend request status obsessively. If it hasn’t been accepted, it’s likely because—she’s just not that into you.
- Refrain from Gossiping: Don’t casually mention to mutual acquaintances that she seems distant or unfriendly. It’s best not to comment on her absence from that café for her usual caffeine fix. Remember, she’s just not that into you.
- Maintain Your Dignity at Events: Please, for the sake of your self-respect, don’t ignore her at the kids’ sports events. She can see you chatting with everyone except her from a distance. Just repeat: she’s just not that into you.
- Don’t Take It Personally: Seeing her bond with a new mom at the playground shouldn’t sting. Perhaps they clicked better, or maybe you simply didn’t mesh well. Is it really so terrible that a subpar friend isn’t interested in you?
When I first encountered the phrase “she’s just not that into you,” I wondered what kind of person would abandon a friend so easily. The truth is, it often reflects more about them than about you. It’s empowering to shift the focus away from your own shortcomings and acknowledge that—well—she’s just not that into you because she fails to recognize how fabulous you truly are.
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In summary, it’s essential to approach new friendships with an open heart but also with the awareness that not every connection will flourish. Embrace the journey and remember, if someone isn’t interested in cultivating a friendship, it’s their loss, not yours.
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