Several years ago, I took my three sons to a local baseball field on a Saturday morning to register my eldest, then five, for spring baseball. As I deliberated over the appropriate hat size and baseball pants for the paperwork, a few coaches approached me, curious about my second son, who was then three. “Does he play?” one coach inquired, pointing to my son, Oliver. I hesitated, glancing at my newborn, who was peacefully asleep in a carrier. “Uh, he doesn’t play… anything,” I replied, thinking about how he preferred Star Wars and superheroes over sports.
“Wow,” one coach responded, nodding with enthusiasm. “What high school are you zoned for? I coach football at the local school. Let me know if he’s heading my way.” I smiled politely, feeling overwhelmed, and gently guided my children away from the eager coaches who seemed to be trying to recruit my preschooler for football eleven years early.
Fast forward to today, and my now eight-year-old Oliver has developed a fondness for the bedtime story “The Story of Ferdinand,” written by Munro Leaf. Every night, he requests this book, and I find myself reading it to him and his younger brother, the baby who once nestled in the carrier. They eagerly finish my sentences together.
When Oliver was four, we enrolled him in soccer. It seemed like an ideal first sport, with some of his preschool friends participating. He was excited to wear the jersey, and his coaches were thrilled since he was noticeably taller than his teammates. However, every Saturday, while other kids dashed after the ball, Oliver ambled along, searching for me on the sidelines. “Is it snack time yet?” he would ask hopefully. Despite the coaches’ encouragement, he never kicked the ball that season, but he did relish the cupcake and trophy he received at the end.
As a mother, I occasionally felt concern for him. At six, we thought we had discovered his passion—swimming. His father had a swimming background, so it seemed logical for Oliver to follow suit. We signed him up for a year-round swim team, attending practices thrice a week. However, while other children honed their strokes, Oliver preferred to float and explore the bottom of the pool. His youthful coach frequently called out, “Hey Oliver, what are you doing?” But Oliver would often be blissfully unaware, lost in his own underwater world.
Ultimately, Oliver decided to quit swimming. He briefly tried karate and flag football before we settled on a cartooning class at a local art school that he absolutely loves, along with a weekly hour of group tennis. Oliver is tall and robust, resembling a natural athlete, but he thrives in creative pursuits. He enjoys spending afternoons in our backyard, crafting elaborate stories, building with Legos, or playing Minecraft with his brothers.
In a world that often prioritizes athleticism, it can be challenging to embrace Oliver’s unique interests. I occasionally experience pangs of anxiety when I hear about his classmates excelling in sports, questioning if he’s falling behind or if I should encourage him to be more active. However, I’ve come to understand and accept that he is not inclined toward competitive sports. He is our Ferdinand, choosing to explore his creativity rather than chase a ball.
He enjoys drawing, inventing whimsical games, and making his baby sister laugh. While I want him to be physically active, I appreciate that he is developing tennis skills that he can enjoy for life. I recognize that, despite his physical appearance, he is not meant to be the athlete many envision. And that’s perfectly fine. There is a place in the world for children like Oliver. He is an artist and a storyteller, content in who he is—a sentiment he shares with me.
“This is my favorite part,” Oliver beams as I turn the page in the dim light of his room.
For all I know, he might still be under that favorite cork tree, quietly enjoying the aroma of flowers—very happy indeed.
In Summary
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