Parenting Insights by Dr. Emily Hartman, Family Physician
Have you ever experienced a romantic moment abruptly interrupted by unexpected sounds from your child? This isn’t about the teenage years; it’s about those intimate moments in your own bedroom when the thought strikes, “What if my child walks in right now?”
Years ago, when my eldest was still confined to a crib at night, I stumbled upon an amusing article in a parenting magazine titled “Things to Say at That Awkward Moment!” One suggestion was to tell the child, “Oh, sweetheart! Daddy was helping Mommy look for a lost quarter!” But, honestly, where did she even put that quarter?
Most parents have envisioned this scenario, but in the heat of the moment, it’s easy to be sidetracked. We often push it aside, thinking we will address it later—if it ever happens. Typically, we just lock the door and hope for the best.
However, childhood lasts a long time, and healthy relationships often include a significant amount of intimacy. Statistically speaking, it’s likely that your child will catch you in the act at some point. After all, many of us have our own stories of catching our parents in compromising situations.
Let me share a story about my 9-year-old son. Unable to fall asleep, he hears strange noises coming from our bedroom. His heart racing, he gets out of bed and stands outside the door, listening intently. After a few moments, he knocks. The noises cease. “Yes?” comes the reply. “Um, is everything OK?” “Yes, honey, go back to bed. I’ll be there in a few minutes.”
What did we tell him? Prepare yourself: we chose to be honest.
Yes, we admitted the truth. Why? Because when our friends share stories about catching their parents, they often realize what was happening. The excuses their parents offered—like a loud TV or an upset stomach—never truly fooled them. Instead, these fibs may unintentionally teach kids that sex is a taboo topic not to be discussed with parents.
Later, while sitting on the edge of my son’s bed, I revisited our earlier conversation. “Do you remember when we talked about sex last year?” I asked. “Uh-huh,” he replied. “Well, that’s what we were doing.” I braced myself for his reaction.
“Oh. But it sounded like it hurt,” he said, his young mind racing. I paused, then replied, “You know how sometimes you hear one of your brothers in another room, and you can’t tell if he’s laughing or crying?” He nodded. “It’s kind of like that. It doesn’t hurt at all, but it’s a very strong feeling.”
“Okay,” he said, and that was the end of it.
The primary reason my partner and I decided to be truthful was that we strive for honesty in our family. We encourage open dialogue and insist that “we don’t lie in our family.” Thus, we felt it was essential to discuss challenging topics and provide truthful answers.
Lying to those closest to you can lead to complicated situations. You may get caught in the details or your child might sense inconsistencies. If they question your story, you could respond defensively, which may create an uncomfortable environment. Why should you be upset when they simply want to know what’s happening?
So, remember to lock the door, keep quiet, and consider honesty if your child catches you. Will he need therapy later? Probably. After all, his story ends with, “and then my mom wrote about it for her blog.” If you happen to run into him, let’s not discuss it, okay?
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In summary, navigating the complexities of parenthood often requires openness and understanding. Being truthful with your children about adult topics can foster a trusting relationship, leaving both parties with a sense of comfort and security.
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