Every morning, as the sun begins to rise, my husband, David, reaches for me. He rolls over, resting his long, slender arm across my body, tucking his chin into the curve of my shoulder. His lips, still dry from sleep, brush against my ear as he murmurs a familiar tune in a gravelly voice that barely breaks the dawn silence.
“It’s more of a chant, really,” I chuckle to myself, as he isn’t the most talented singer. But the words are always the same: “You are the most beautiful wife in the world.”
Despite my disheveled state—wearing yoga pants with a sizable hole in the back and a simple tank top, with hair matted against the pillow from a night of sleep—I can’t help but feel a flutter of warmth as I hear his words.
I’m acutely aware that I don’t fit the conventional definition of beauty. With four children behind me, I bear stretch marks in unconventional places—behind my knees and above my ribs. My torso might be too long, while my legs seem too short to reach the ground comfortably when seated. I wear a size ten, and I rely on various shapewear pieces that promise to smooth my silhouette. When I do engage in physical activity, which is rare unless I’m being chased or racing to a sale, my body reacts in ways that can only be described as chaotic.
Yet, David sees me as stunning.
This realization leads me to ponder a few possibilities. First, after conducting a few informal vision tests with apps on my phone, I can confirm that he doesn’t appear to have any vision issues, ruling out the idea that he doesn’t actually see me. Second, I know he’s not inexperienced; he was married before and has likely encountered beauty in various forms, so that explanation falls flat as well.
So, why does he see me as beautiful when I see only flaws? I can’t help but place some blame on societal standards. The opinions of those who don’t matter—like the judgmental voices of peers or misguided comments from a salesperson—can weigh heavily.
While you might be stepping into the shower, wishing for a flatter stomach, your partner is likely admiring you in your natural state. If you were to turn around and suggest a romantic encounter, do you think he’d ask for the lights to be dimmed to avoid seeing any imperfections? Unlikely.
It seems that while many wives feel they need to meet an unrealistic standard of beauty, our husbands often appreciate us just as we are. I’ve gathered anecdotal evidence from friends, and it’s a consensus: men find their wives attractive in their natural forms.
So, who is it that tells us we should feel inadequate? Only those who don’t know us personally or the inner voice that insists we’re not enough as mothers, professionals, or partners.
The only voice that truly matters is that of the person who shares your bed each night—the one who sees you naked and still finds you captivating. It’s this voice that whispers to me each morning, affirming that I am indeed “the most beautiful wife in the world,” even as I struggle to believe it myself.
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In summary, beauty is often subjective and heavily influenced by the perceptions of those around us. While we may struggle with self-image, it is essential to remember that the opinions of our partners—those who appreciate us for who we are—should hold more weight than societal standards. Embrace your unique beauty, just as your partner does.
Keyphrase: Most Beautiful Wife in the World
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