Dear Clara,
Though you are just six years old, I already sense the world’s attempts to pull you away from the innocence of childhood. With that in mind, here are my commitments to you:
- I vow to promote a positive body image. You will never hear me mention “diet” or “fattening.” I will refrain from voicing any dissatisfaction with my own appearance. Even when you point out my laugh lines, I’ll explain they come from joy. I won’t allow you to criticize your own body either; your health is what truly matters—nothing else.
- I will never imply that your gender limits your potential. I take immense pride in your dedication to basketball. Even when you’re the only girl on your team and don’t get the ball passed to you, I marvel at your fierce defense and speed on the court. I promise to nurture that passion within you.
- I will not permit you to indulge in unkind behaviors. I never want to hear that you’ve excluded someone or acted cruelly. The world can be harsh, especially for girls, and I will ensure you understand the importance of compassion and kindness.
- I will protect you from the unrealistic standards set by the advertising industry for as long as possible. While I know I can’t shield you forever, I will keep you away from magazines that push weight loss secrets and anti-aging products. Your life should not revolve around media messages that undermine your beauty, so I will do my best to safeguard you until you’re ready to confront these challenges.
- I will always encourage you to express yourself boldly. This doesn’t mean being disrespectful, but I want your voice to resonate with confidence. No idea is too wild; share your thoughts with enthusiasm and claim your rightful space in this world.
- I will never suggest you need to enhance your appearance with makeup. I hope you see your natural beauty in the mirror and never feel the need to cover it up because of my influence.
- I will strive to preserve your childhood for as long as I can. Remember when I was upset about your attempts to twerk? I don’t care where you learned it; it’s simply not appropriate. Too many girls are pushed to grow up quickly, and I want you to enjoy every moment of being a child. Let your imagination flourish as long as possible.
- I pledge to listen to you with an open heart. I want to hear your dreams, thoughts, and insights. It’s a delight to see the world through your perspective, filled with creativity and wisdom. I anticipate many engaging discussions in the years ahead.
- I promise to love you unconditionally. Even during the tumultuous teenage years when you might say you hate me, I will remind myself that it’s just the hormones talking. While I can’t promise to stay silent through those tough moments, I will always embrace you and forgive your outbursts.
- Most importantly, I love you to the moon and back. I take my role as your mother seriously, and I’m documenting these promises so you can hold me accountable.
With all my love,
Mom