Dear Partner,
I want to start by expressing my love for you. You mean the world to me. However, I need to be candid — I am utterly exhausted. It’s a level of fatigue that feels almost incomprehensible. Do you understand? I’m so worn out that even contemplating how tired I am feels like too much effort. I’m drained, both physically and mentally.
As a working mom, I often feel as though I’m navigating a unique and challenging journey. There’s an underlying guilt that I carry for not being home with our children as often as I’d like, similar to what society deems “ideal” for mothers.
I acknowledge that stay-at-home parents contribute significantly — their work is undeniably tough. Yet, my temperament and preferences don’t align with that lifestyle. For me, my job feels like a much-needed break, despite the demands it brings. I find fulfillment and purpose in my career, and I want our children to see the value of hard work. However, the guilt of not being present for them lingers and never fully dissipates.
I want you to know that I don’t view you as a bad husband or father. In fact, you are genuinely exceptional, and I appreciate you. While you may not be able to “fix” my exhaustion, there are ways you can help lighten my load.
When you see me returning home, juggling work documents, school bags, or groceries, a helping hand would mean the world to me. And if you could keep track of your own belongings, that would alleviate some of my stress too.
Another challenge I face is loneliness. Many of my friends are in the same boat, caught up in our relentless careers, making it hard to connect. The days of casual get-togethers feel distant. When I finally find time to unwind with friends, it reminds me of the importance of community. I need you to encourage me to nurture these friendships and, when necessary, to push me out the door for a little break.
I understand that you might have a list of tasks for me when I’m gone, but sometimes, I’m too fatigued to think clearly. So please, take the initiative while I’m out. Prepare dinner, help with homework, and ensure the kids are ready for school. I trust you to manage these responsibilities, as you always do an admirable job.
Once I return home, I promise to do my best not to critique how you managed things in my absence. Even if dinner consists of a mix of leftovers and carbs, I appreciate your efforts.
I often feel overwhelmed, and I wish I could give each area of my life my full attention. Right now, everything is receiving about 60% of my best, and that feels like a failing grade. It’s a struggle, and I need your encouragement to remind me that I’m doing okay.
Finally, I crave moments of physical care and relaxation. I’m not just talking about intimacy; sometimes, a simple bubble bath with candles and some quiet time can rejuvenate my spirit. A little effort to create these moments would mean a lot to me.
I must return to my responsibilities now — there’s homework to finish, emails to respond to, and a never-ending list of tasks. Thank you for your understanding and support.
Love,
Your working partner