Throughout my life, I have come to understand the critical role of timing. For instance, imagine receiving a luxurious new car from a wealthy relative for your birthday. If you express your gratitude quickly, they feel appreciated. Wait six months, and they might reconsider their generosity. Similarly, if you frequent your favorite pub at 7 PM after a long workday, that’s typical. Show up at 7 AM, and it may raise concerns about your drinking habits. The same actions can yield vastly different interpretations based on timing.
Recently, I had a conversation with an acquaintance named Mark, who lacks parenting experience.
Mark: “A few of us are hitting the bar after work. Care to join?”
Me: “No thanks, my wife is working late, and I’ll be caring for my daughter.”
Mark: (with a condescending tone) “How adorable. Are you two going to dress up like princesses?”
Me: “Actually, we’re…”
Mark: “You know what? I’m not interested in your plans. It seems like babysitting has become your go-to excuse. Taking care of kids is a woman’s job, and you really ought to man up – but I doubt you understand that.”
For context, I have a wonderful 16-month-old daughter. Had Mark made similar disparaging comments before her arrival, I might have reacted impulsively. Fortunately, fatherhood has positively transformed me, and I simply shook my head and walked away. This is yet another instance highlighting the importance of timing.
It’s worth mentioning that watching your own child is parenting, not babysitting. Babysitting is when you pay a teenager to hang out with friends while you’re away.
As I drove home, I contemplated what it truly means to “man up.” Does it imply neglecting my responsibilities as a father to socialize with someone I hardly know? Should I believe that my wife alone bears the burden of raising our child while I lounge on the couch? That perspective is not mine.
In my view, “man up” entails:
- Supporting My Partner: Regardless of how competent I feel as a dad, my wife often works harder than I do. I show my appreciation by helping around the house, preparing meals, filling her car with gas, and offering loving gestures like foot massages after her long days.
- Prioritizing Health: Sure, I sometimes feel tempted to indulge in fast food or skip the gym. However, thoughts of my daughter motivate me to maintain a healthy lifestyle. I want to ensure I am there for her, steering clear of preventable health issues.
- Public Affection: I’ve noticed many fathers who only engage with their children when discipline is necessary. I, on the other hand, frequently hug, kiss, and play with my daughter in public. Others may give me strange looks, but I want her to know that showing affection is normal.
- Engaging in Play: Many fathers enjoy tea parties or dress-up sessions with their daughters, and I’m not above joining in. While my daughter is still too young for those specific activities, I’m the first to pick out her outfits. Knowing about her favorite characters and trends, like Hello Kitty and jeggings, has become essential.
- Being a Role Model: I aim to set a good example for my daughter. While I may have a penchant for swearing, I consciously avoid cursing in her presence. It’s crucial to teach her manners, and I’ve seen the positive effects of my efforts. Just the other day, she thanked me after I changed her diaper, which melted my heart.
- Perseverance: Parenting can be incredibly challenging. There are days filled with tantrums and frustrations, but I remind myself that my daughter loves me. “Manning up” means being resilient and striving to be the best father I can be, regardless of the difficulties.
- Caring Deeply: My commitment to my wife and daughter is unwavering. A night out with friends pales in comparison to the joy I experience after a day spent with my child. I will always prioritize their well-being and happiness.
To my misguided acquaintance: my daughter is my world. If you’re reading this, let me clarify what “manning up” truly means. Your dismissive comments reflect a broader issue, and I hope you reconsider your views. Thankfully, readers here are far too compassionate to endorse such attitudes.
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In summary, embracing fatherhood means redefining traditional notions of masculinity. It encompasses being supportive, healthy, affectionate, engaging in play, setting a good example, persevering through challenges, and genuinely caring for your family.
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