By: Emily and Jake
Updated: March 31, 2014
Originally Published: July 31, 2011
In the initial months of marriage, Jake and I experienced a delightful transition into our new life together, largely because we had already been cohabitating before tying the knot. Had we returned from our honeymoon to merge our lives and possessions at that moment, I suspect the experience would have been far from romantic. I distinctly remember the early days of sharing a living space with my “permanent roommate”—it was an adjustment, to say the least.
I often found myself thinking, “He’s always around,” as I yearned for moments of solitude to attend to personal grooming rituals that my then-boyfriend shouldn’t witness. Preparing for outings became more frustrating than fun as we jostled for limited space at the small vanity. I found it difficult to shave my legs in the shower while he was in the bathroom, creating an atmosphere that lacked privacy. The bed became a battlefield, with his tendency to leave it unmade the moment he settled in; his socks mysteriously gathered at the foot of the bed, seemingly to annoy me.
Moreover, Jake had a penchant for sharing his opinions on decor—an area I believed should be mine alone. I still recall the occasion he insisted on attending our florist meeting for the wedding, only to doze off and snore during her presentation. Did he genuinely care about flowers? Shouldn’t aesthetics like bedding and home fragrances be my domain? I wished he would focus his energy on creating a man-cave in the basement instead.
Fifteen years later, aside from the occasional disputes over trivial matters like toilet paper replacement or the recycling that remains untouched, I have grown comfortable cohabiting with my partner and our wonderful children. Most days, I even enjoy it. Still, I can’t help but daydream about a home where I could live without the chaos of husband and kids.
My Ideal Abode
Would you like to take a peek at my ideal abode?
Let’s start with the bedroom, featuring lovely pink bedding, free of stray hairs and remnants of breakfast. Moving on to the bathroom, I envision a single sink without any hair clippings, toothpaste smudges, or clutter—a serene space with a clawfoot tub and a chandelier that serves no purpose but to dazzle.
I would have a dressing room, naturally, where I could peacefully apply my makeup and adorn myself with jewelry. The kitchen would revolve around my pink Cuisinart mixer, always infused with the aroma of vanilla-scented candles. Lastly, I dream of a dedicated craft and gift-wrapping room—truly a paradise of creativity.
However, if life unfolds as I hope, this dream house may remain a figment of my imagination. And perhaps that’s not such a bad outcome after all.
(P.S. Jake, dear: while you were away, I decided we’re switching sides of the bed. Hope you’re okay with that!)
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In summary, while the realities of living together have their challenges, the idea of an ideal home remains a comforting dream.
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