On my 20th birthday, I received a card from my younger sister, who wrote in her shaky script, “Wow, you’re 20!” It struck me as a significant milestone—an end to my teenage years and a step into adulthood. The age seemed impressive to others, yet I still felt like the same person I was at 19, or even 14. Despite what the calendar suggested, I didn’t feel any more adult-like. However, turning 20 marked the first time I truly understood that I would never again be a teenager, and that time only moves in one direction.
As I approached my 20th college reunion, I anticipated a rather uneventful experience. In my more cynical moments, I viewed it as merely a scheme for the institution to boost alumni contributions and maintain loyalty. After all, our graduation ceremony was held in the football stadium—an unfamiliar place for me during my college years—due to security measures for our commencement speaker, then-President Clinton. Arriving early to navigate through metal detectors and enduring a downpour without umbrellas made the experience feel more like a formal event than a celebration of our time there.
Conventional wisdom suggests that reunions are for those stuck in their past or eager to showcase their successes. So, is it socially unacceptable to admit I enjoyed mine? There’s a unique bond that comes from reconnecting with those who shared your formative years. Even if we never truly knew one another or had our differences, there was an undeniable intimacy. Beneath our discussions of careers, relationships, and regrets was a shared understanding: we all remembered our youth, and being around those who shared that past rekindled those memories.
Returning to campus after years away, time felt fluid—both distant and immediate. I turned a corner and spotted an old friend emerging from a dormitory, and for a moment, it was as if we still lived there. We found ourselves at the same tables where we once discussed youthful escapades, now sharing adult concerns like health and family. The intensity of our past experiences—of love and growth—came flooding back. Twenty years later, we found ourselves longing for the carefree days of our youth, reflecting on the compromises we had made along the way.
Under a tent during Friday night’s festivities, I recounted how, in the days leading up to the reunion, I had spent countless hours sewing name labels onto my daughter’s sleepaway camp underwear. One friend expressed disbelief, prompting me to wonder how much I had changed since those days. What other parts of my past self had I forgotten?
Throughout the weekend, we formed small groups, piecing together memories of our shared history. Was that the night you lost your shoes? Or was it junior year? The past became a gem, examined from various perspectives. Our campus navigation had changed; communication was no longer spontaneous but rather organized through texts. Still, our need for connection remained strong.
During lunch, a classmate shared the sorrowful story of her father’s passing, a narrative we all honored with our attention. “I remember meeting your dad,” someone remarked, prompting her to recall details she had forgotten. I was touched by her ability to bask in that memory, realizing that parts of her father still remained ingrained in that space.
I spoke with a classmate who had married his college girlfriend after she became pregnant, and they were still together two decades later. His pride in their youngest daughter’s log-rolling achievements highlighted the paths we had taken, each unique yet intertwined.
As the reunion progressed, the conversations deepened, addressing challenges like addiction and loss. It became clear that life has no clear winners or losers, and that both abundance and scarcity exist side by side.
That night, I returned to my hotel room and jotted down my thoughts. There’s nothing inherently special about 20; it doesn’t mark a significant transition any more than 10, 15, or even 42. Most transitions happen quietly, without fanfare, much like the gradual awakening of a cat nudging you at dawn.
On Sunday morning, a light rain fell, and I felt an overwhelming sense of nostalgia. The previous day’s bright skies had turned gray, mirroring my mood. During breakfast, I decided it was time to leave. I didn’t want to return to campus and bid farewell under a somber tent, nor did I want to envision my peers returning to their complex lives. I wished they could remain as they were, preserving that version of myself that they remembered.
In summary, reconnecting after 20 years brought forth a whirlwind of nostalgia, reflection, and understanding that despite the passage of time and life’s complexities, the bonds formed in youth remain significant.
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