Time has a peculiar way of reminding us of its swift passage, even while some days stretch out endlessly. It’s more than the back-to-school rush or looming work deadlines; it’s the little moments—like the way Mia’s hair sways and her brows dance with her emotions, or the way Leo retreats into his own world of daydreams and video game adventures. Then there’s Zoe, whose nighttime thrashing in her too-small pajamas reveals how quickly she’s growing.
I often resist the feeling that parts of our journey are preordained or that I am forced onto paths I once vowed to avoid. What I desire most is to find a sense of control amidst the whirlwind of life, to have mornings where I know exactly what to pack for lunch, how to dress, and what preparations are needed for the day ahead. Yet, the more I seek certainty, the more the threads of my day fray, and one commitment leads to another missed opportunity.
“Are you really not coming to see me get my new belt?” Zoe asks, disappointment etched on her face.
“I will be there for the testing on Saturday when you earn your belt, but I might not make it back for the ceremony on Monday,” I reply, my voice steady but my heart heavy. The truth is, I don’t want to miss anything. When did I lose the reins of my own life?
As I glance at my calendar, a sea of purple marks my commitments, overlapping and chaotic, leaving no room for relief. The idea of trimming down my obligations feels like an insurmountable task.
Just last weekend, one of our few free weekends, we found ourselves driving to Boston. We planned a quick overnight trip, but with the kids now prone to car sickness, the venture became a logistical challenge, requiring us to drive over four hours twice in less than a day.
I booked a hotel thirty minutes outside the city, packed motion sickness remedies, and tried to quell my frustration at yet another tightly packed schedule of my own making. In the backseat, my children buzzed with excitement.
“Will there be tall buildings?” “Can we eat out?” “Will the hotel have a swimming pool?” Their eager questions lulled me into a daze, and I offered auto-pilot responses, “Yes, uh-huh, maybe, I’m not sure. Regardless, we’ll find adventure.” My instinct to please and make everything work kept me going.
I turned on a movie for them, and they cozied up together, legs intertwined. As I rested my head against the window, memories from my own childhood travels flooded back: moments with family, breathtaking landscapes, and bittersweet recollections of loved ones. I pondered what the children would take away from this trip. Would they remember my concerns about hotel costs or their father’s enthusiasm for the boat races? Or perhaps the matching shirts we wore? When Briar looked at me, tilted her head, and silently mouthed, “You know I love you, right?” I fought back an emotional response. Parts of me run deeply through her.
“Yes, I do, sweetheart.”
The trip turned into a whirlwind of laughter and spontaneity. I stopped worrying about what they would remember and allowed the day to unfold naturally. The hotel, as it turned out, did have a pool, along with a memorable lifeguard. As we packed to leave, the girls buzzed with joy, recalling their first glimpses of Boston.
The journey back was surprisingly beautiful as we traversed through New Hampshire and Vermont. Stopping at a quaint café in Bethel, Vermont, we enjoyed a peaceful lunch. No fussing over high chairs or menu modifications, just five people sharing a meal mid-adventure.
When we reached the parking lot, the girls wanted to climb a nearby wall. Normally, I’d rush them along with warnings about safety. This time, we let them explore. Briar was the first to leap, calling out, “Dad, catch me!” My husband captured the moment on camera while I reminisced about how, not too long ago, “Catch me!” meant something entirely different. My heart ached as I realized we no longer catch her in the same way.
“Did you see that?” she asked breathlessly. It’s okay, even if it hurts, because we did witness it, and we’ve taught her to believe in herself.
All these memories, hopes, and emotions intertwine within me, deeply etched into my being. I let out a breath that is both shaky and liberating, reminding myself of a simple truth: what truly matters is not the chaos of life but the fact that we are together.
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In summary, amidst the chaos of parenting and daily life, it’s essential to prioritize what truly matters—our connections and shared experiences.
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