As the school year kicks off for my children, I find myself revisiting the same feelings I had during my own school days — the shyness, the awkwardness, and the nagging fear that no one would want to talk to me or befriend me. This time, however, my concerns revolve around the other moms.
The mom community can be tough, and the instinct to form cliques doesn’t disappear after high school. For someone like me, who battles social anxiety, approaching a seemingly tight-knit group can feel overwhelming, regardless of how kind those moms may be. More often than not, I find myself standing on the sidelines, glued to my phone or pretending my heart isn’t racing from the anxiety of potential interaction. Unfortunately, this can lead others to misinterpret my behavior, assuming I’m unfriendly or aloof — the so-called “stuck-up” mom.
Today, I want to urge all moms to show some understanding toward those of us grappling with social anxiety. We aren’t intentionally being dismissive; we fear rejection and worry about appearing awkward, especially when we don’t have the answers to the questions everyone else seems to handle with ease. We dread the silence that might greet our attempts at conversation or the idea that you’ll turn away when we approach.
If you see a mom like me, here are a few ways you can help bridge that gap:
- Initiate Conversation: Please take the first step. If you notice someone standing alone, reach out and introduce yourself. A simple greeting can open doors and help us feel more included.
- Extend Invitations: Much of the socializing in today’s world happens outside school. Consider asking for our contact details or inviting us to coffee with the other moms. Even if we can’t always join, knowing we’re included means a lot and helps us feel more connected.
- Recognize Our Strengths: We have unique talents and contributions to offer, just like anyone else! Acknowledging our potential for involvement in volunteering or classroom activities can make us feel valued. Whether it’s art, writing, or even engineering, we want to show that we have something to bring to the table.
As we navigate back-to-school season, let’s work together to make it less daunting for those of us fighting social anxiety. For those who have never experienced it, it may sound trivial, but the impact of social anxiety can lead to feelings of depression and isolation. It’s a significant challenge. So, let’s strive to understand one another better and recognize that we’re not purposefully being standoffish — sometimes we simply don’t have the energy to make the first move.
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In summary, let’s work together to create a supportive environment for all moms, especially those dealing with social anxiety. A little understanding and kindness can go a long way in fostering connections.